Pamper Yourself….You DESERVE It!

Women wear SO many hats.  We are mothers, sisters, wives, girlfriends, daughters, employees and we’re expected to wear all of our hats with grace.  I have to admit, sometimes it gets to be too much!

I just recently published an article about how women should handle themselves in Corporate America.  Did you feel overwhelmed reading it?  I felt overwhelmed writing it….LOL.  Now it’s time to let your hair down and do something for YOU!  You already know you deserve it.  You don’t even have to have anyone tell you that you do.  You KNOW you do!  Just go DO YOU! 

Get your nails done every week…why not….you paid your bills so go treat yourself.  Don’t buy the kids something else they DON’T need with YOUR nail money.  Just saying.  Go ahead and be selfish sometimes.  Men are.  The kids definitely are.  Now YOU are too!

Get your hair done.  Get a new dress or new slacks.  Your man won’t take you out?  Get dressed up and dance the night away with your girls!  When you LOOK good, you FEEL good then you can wear your several hats even more effortlessly. 🙂

How I want to pamper myself?  I was recently looking at luxury cars.  I’m ready to upgrade my ride and tool around town in style!  Why not?  I work super hard…all day, every day while trying to juggle my relationship, my kids’ committments, my higher education, my career…and sometimes…I forget who I am or where I fall on the list.  I haven’t gotten my feet or hair done in months.  However, I have been holding off purchasing anything too large because I’m enjoying my financial freedom.

Nevertheless, do what works for you.  Remember that you have to take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else.  And you can’t question that you’ll look and feel more awesome in those boardroom meetings or while at work, calling the shots. 

Go ahead!  Pamper yourself….You deserve it!!!

Peace! 😀


Denim is Making a STRONG Comeback!!!!

I was shopping online just now for more Toms shoes because I am addicted.  I think Toms might be akin to Keds in the 80s but with a bohemian, charitable vibe to them.  I saw these AWESOME denim Toms in Womens and at first I thought, What would they go with?  Hellooo!!!  It’s DENIM!  Everything!  LOL.  It’s just my practical side has not quite met my fashionista side.  I am a mother of two little boys and have been so practical for so long to save money and get more wear out of all of their clothing (and mine).  But just recently, as I get more comfortable in Motherhood and get the whole shopping/saving thing down, I am realizing how I can have more fun with my wardrobe without breaking the bank…every mother’s holy grail. 🙂  I am feeling like old Sammii again when things didn’t have to match perfectly and when I could put on pretty much anything and feel good about it.I was footloose and fancy-free back in my childhood days.  Now I am getting back to that girl again.

Recently, I have seen denim popping up everywhere.  Denim shirtdress (too cute!), chambray tops  which would work perfectly with my pink capris from Gap and now the denim Toms that are absolutely scrumptious.  I must admit that I have shied away from purchasing the denim items because I have been wondering how logical will the purchase be.  Will I be able to wear the items to work and not get a look from my supervisor?  Where I work, everyone dresses pretty much in the typical corporate manner.  I feel like I am one of the few who tries to stretch the limits of our office dress code without compromising my reputation (and judgement). 

So what do you all think?  Is Denim making a comeback especially this year or have I been under a rock for the past couple of decades?  I would love to hear from you.  I know as a mommy,  I can sometimes get lost in mini people land and I don’t know what is coming and going….lol.   I would love to hear your opinions. 

Peace! 😀


Toms in New York

I just bought my first pair of Toms in NY!!!  I’m a strong believer in giving back to people in need, so it was awesome to get to buy a cool pair of shoes that gave back to an impoverished community. 

I bought the black Toms eventhough I was leaning towards the perforated Toms. The fit isn’t primarily created for a wide foot so I had to go almost one size up.  It’s so funny because there is a “W” inside of the shoe.  I asked the saleswoman if the “W” stood for “Wide Width” and I could tell she was holding back a little laugh.  But she seemed to have to think for a second then she told me, “No, the ‘W’ stands for ‘Womens’.”   I asked her about the option to buy a Mens shoe in my equivalent size but they didn’t carry a size small enough for me to buy Mens.  A little backstory:  When I was a teenager, I used to buy Men’s sneakers all the time to save money plus I thought the boys shoes looked cooler than the women’s.

Ok, back to the present.  🙂  My excitement was deflated a little as I tried to fit my foot into the cloth shoe.  But I was determined to buy my Toms THAT day. 

First, let me explain why it was so important to buy my Toms at that moment.  My feet were killing me after walking all over New York in my sandals.  I NEVER bring the right clothes when I travel.  My significant other (s/o) and I are trying something new where we pack the bare minimum.  But because this is new, I don’t have the process completely down yet….lol.  So I NEVER check the weather BEFORE we leave for the trip.  I am always unhappily surprised when we get to our destination and it is either too cold, too hot, too rainy, too SOMEthing for the clothes in my suitcase.  And I am NOTORIOUS for doing this on our trips to Ohio, my s/o’s home state.  I don’t care if I bring 10 outfits for two days, I can guarantee you, I will have to buy a raincoat, jeans, shorts, a t-shirt, something.  I don’t know if that is just me but I can never get it right.

The second reason I wanted to buy my Toms that day in incredibly sunny, perfect weather New York is that I am a HUGE believer in fate. 🙂  I believe if the stars align and things feel just right, then it MUST be done.  If it is not done then I believe something in the universe will not be right in my future.  This may sound crazy but some people call it “following your gut” and when I don’t follow my gut, things do go wrong. 

The third reason is when I travel, I like to buy things to remind me of my travels.  I feel like it makes my wardrobe more exotic and it’s nice to have that memory of a place I travelled to with me on my feet, around my neck, on my wrist…a peaceful reminder of why I go to work each day.  I like my job enough but I love to travel and have adventures.  I wouldn’t be able to afford to do what I love without going to work.  But while I am sitting in my cube with my impeccable scarf around my neck, I can smile to myself and think of my travels so far from where I am sitting right now.

The fourth reason is that the sign was RIGHT THERE.  Brands and I were walking along the street and I saw a sign hanging that had Journeys then I saw “Toms”  amongst numerous other brands on the sign and I knew that was it.  I ran inside, dragging Brandon in tow and was instantly in my element.  I don’t usually shop at places like Journeys.  I feel like I am an old fogey and I like to shop at more grown-up stores now like Ann Taylor, J. Crew, Banana Republic, etc. 

But there is this side of me that will ALWAYS be bohemian no matter what career I have or what I feel I have to wear to work to get ahead.  Truth be told, if I could wear long tiered skirts and flip-flops to work and still get the corner office, I would.  I have been bohemian my whole life.  Kind of like a nomad too because I have traveled my whole life, either as a military brat, being in the military myself or marrying military.  Then my s/o got out and we are still on the search for new travels and new experiences.  I guess it is in our blood.  We love where we live but we constantly have that itch to take to the roads, skies or seas.

So there I am, sitting down, trying on a size 8.0 when I wear a 7 typically because I was THAT determined to give back to children in need, wear my new Toms from New York AND give my feet a much-needed break.  I was finally able to fit the 7.5 but after wearing my shoes for a couple of hours in NY then back on the road to VA, I think I could have gotten away with my usual 7.  The cloth seems to stretch a bit, not a lot after a few hours of walking through NY but enough for me to feel like I could have dealt with my tight 7s until they gave way some. 

I also bought a distressed bookbag from Journeys for bike rides and happily went up to the salesgirl who was singing out loud.  Everything about my first Toms experience was perfect.  It was quirky, it was random, it was in New York and they had my size for the shoe I wanted.

I changed my shoes right in the store and placed everything into my backpack.  Then time I walked out of the store, my foot began hurting.  I think because the muscles of my feet were adjusting to my new shoes.  The muscles in my feet can be weird and they are often hurting depending on which shoes I choose to wear.  Anyways, I walked through the pain after sitting for a minute then my feet were fine for the rest of the day in my new Toms.  I look forward to many adventures with my new Toms and I’m glad a child will be enjoying a new pair of shoes because of my purchase.  You can’t beat all that goodness in a matter of 20 minutes.

Peace! 😀